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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow
I know I can say this to you and you will not be like oh that fucking Snow here she goes, I know you will hear me.
You gotta let that go, the one sided assumption that if a woman is dialing into domestication or tasks that come to some form of care taking, or care giving they are trapped.
Here's why.
We're Doms if we want, need, expect this from a butch and we expect them to do it we have to release the one sided.
They are woman too (unless they are not) and the masculine appearance may be able to let you forget that but the assumption they are trapped could be made of them as well.
In BDSM/Kink we can't CAN NOT go into it with any kind of ism or gender role expectation, and we must check our isms ALL of them for us to be able to succesfully lead.
The image of a butch in an apron is hot, but I'd be pretty pissed if someone assumed she was doing it because it was forced or entrapment.
In real time we can have these convos with our girls/women/Femmes. Here too so we gotta make sure we aren't bringing that one sided machete especially when trying to attain a subject.
Make sense?
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Yes I get it and honestly I'm not really holding on it all any more. Of course I might always have that little voice in my head as I check myself. I don't feel I am caught up in gender per se but I could be.
And for me much of this is more about fetishism then anything else. I love role-fucking and anything that fucks the mind.
I think I'm ok here but I know what you mean and respect it.