Hi Hominid. Sorry I have really been burning up the keyboard today and maybe I am just feeling too much to be articulate. What I am trying to say is I believe you that there were butch pals that felt jealous. Not all butches are Trans but most butches, I think have been forced to ponder gender. Most butches are gender outlaws. We/they do not fit the "norm."
So, butches, FTMs, others all of us can say and do hurtful things to our own community. Then, how does that make you feel? Do you feel hurt? Does your hurt turn into anger? Can you let it roll off your back or does it stick in you somewhere? It stuck for me, for years. What I have learned is that my hurt, fear festered. It did not stop the lives of the people who judged me, treated me with disregard. They moved on. I was stuck then I felt even more isolated and angry. This did not serve me.The one I was hurting and frustrating the most was myself. Sometimes I overcompensated in ways that gave credence to negative stereotypes.
My question, have you ever had similar feelings and responses? I am not asking you this in an acusatory way. My hope is that all of us participating in this thread can move forward, find some affirmation for who we are, and find some understanding for those who may not always agree with us, collectively.
Clear as mud. I know.
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Originally Posted by Hominid
I'm sorry Greyson - I completely lost you ... chalk it up to the hurricane? I do not feel offended at all. I value open communication and what people INTEND more than anything at all. Do you mind sharing what sort of thing you internalized? And what "this" you are not saying is part of my character?
I feel like I'm missing something you are trying to communicate that is very important -
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