[Parker]

My first year or so in the Navy, I straight up lied and said "he" - but I tripped over it every single time, so I dont know how I was fooling anyone. lol

I was so paranoid about being found out and dishonorably discharged, that when the lesbian bar I worked at (Partners in SD - I think it lasted all of a year - I was a barback) was up for a few awards at some city-wide gay awards thing (stuff like best bartender, best restaurant, etc) that the mayor was supposed to show up at to do a presentation, I literally hid in the back of the room because I was worried that I would end up on some news clip or part of a sound bite and then everyone would know.

While I was hiding, I saw some gay women and men not just there, but in uniform and right out in the open. It was that night that I felt so pissed off about hiding that I said fuck it, if they find out and kick me out, sobeit and I stopped using gender neutral or male pronouns to hide the fact that my significant other was a woman.

A dude tried to get me kicked out a few years later for supposedly violating DADT, but that's a whole other story. lol