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Originally Posted by Bit
Do you still love them? If you do, then I would say, no you weren't withholding love, even if you withdrew from the relationships.
For me, there is a difference between "loving someone unconditionally" and "accepting all their behaviors without question"... I believe it's certainly possible to love someone unconditionally, even if I have to tell them, "for the sake of my own mental health, I cannot be around your dysfunctional behaviors right now."
I think it's also possible to say, "I love you unconditionally, and for the sake of that love, I cannot allow you to behave badly without consequences." I believe this is the concept that Tough Love is built on--as well as the concept good parenting is built on.
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Thank you Bit. This is what i was trying to get across too but have brain problems today.
I would move mountains, sacrifice, do almost anything for my son, however most of the time i just don't like him.
I think some people I am close to are big assholes, truly need serious help but I still love them.