[QUOTE=Daktari;718037][COLOR="DarkRed"]Hey-up you batty, addictive types of Gotham I needs me some advice/suggestions from folks who're more sensible than I.
Hi Daktari, i am coming from a place of assuming that you did not do this
based on what you wrote.
First off...gossip is gossip. we can't control what other people do.
why would we want to? we discover the truth about who people really
are, and how people really act or react, when we let them be themselves.
My job is to not react. And God i do sometimes. I regret when I do that if
I am not kind about it.
Remember the rule in difficult situations...don't say anything, unless it is;
Kind
Necessary
or True?
I remind myself of this(more often) when i am spiritually fit. BLAH
Your true friends are the one's that will not judge and be open and honest...
will come forth with their questions. Or, if it is so troubling to you..which.. i do not fault you one bit. You can go to them and talk to them. Ask them where does this come from and why would someone say this about me if it wasn't true. If there is someone you respect so much and honor the friendship you have with them...personally, i would need to talk to those
people that i respect and care about and value their friendship. I would need to know if they did and why. If it winds up that they lied...that ugh that hurts. Ask them why? And just remember that we don't always perceive people the way that we think we do. Lies are so harmful and generally stem from fear, pain, jealousy and hate.And lies can be forgiven if they were not meant to harm you. You know. Ugh, hard topic.
The other, really, important thing to note is this....
Give that one away..to God or the wind or whatever works for you.
We can't control others and don't need to depend on what they think
of us as more important than what we think of ourselves and know for ourselves and about ourselves to be true. We can only control what
we do. We are our own actors...we do not control or direct the play or the other actors in it.
Thank God.
Step one also tells us that we are powerless over people places and things.
Cheers and hope my response does not offend in anyway.
Gotta Scoot and thanks for asking for advice. It helps me too.
Experience, Strength and Hope
DMW
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