[Gemme]

Originally Posted by gotoseagrl

it goes beyond communication & honesty. for something that's not limited or short-term, what worked for me before was keeping it in real space as much as possible (voice, visits, frequent contact, making real plans). those things tend to subside the void. actions vs words regardless of distance, money, status, circumstances or other things keeping you apart. actively making opportunities & priorities to have that person be part of your real life, consistently, since they can't be there physically yet. in my experience, that's also what made things actually happen face to face, eventually. getting lost in the virtual realms of fantasy, hopes, wishes & text vs what you actually do have of the real person makes it too hard to sustain. i need to have something tangible to look forward to when there are serious, long-term expectations & goals. constantly having to wonder what things would really be like with the person or having to go too long with "living" the relationship through your mind/thoughts/dreams gets tiring, frustrating and disappointing after too long. so much can be said about this.

I appreciate what you say about what makes LDRs work for you, and I agree that having as much face time as possible is absolutely important, but please do not dismiss what worked best for me.

Thanks!