[LaneyDoll]

Originally Posted by IslandScout

What's helpful to me is when someone like Diva explains WHY it's working; what she and her partner are doing to make it work.

Sharing strategies for success can be helpful; we all apply them in our own ways and sometimes they trigger our own problem-solving epiphanies.

Riley and I have been in an LDR for a year now.

THIS is why it is working...

We were friends first. We got to know each other as friends AND during a long weekend together.

When we share time, we do it often and we focus on each other.

We recognize the value of our time together and we both treat it for the commodity it is.

We spend long weekends together often (at least monthly).

We have dedicated time together-everyday, without fail.

We share a similar system of beliefs, ethics, morals.

Riley is not a jealous person; he understands that I have obligations here to my community and he supports them. I do not let any community activity here get in the way of what we share. We still talk every night before he goes to bed, then I finish what I have to do and call him back for the drive home. He always makes sure I get home safely before he really sleeps for the night. Additionally, I do not take advantage of that and leave hours earlier than I once did.


THIS is why it is an LDR...

Riley is completing college. He has no desire to remain in his area and jobs in his field are not available in mine. There is no need for either of us to move at this time. Why uproot me and the kids from our home only to have to move again once he finds a job?

Riley treats me better than anyone else ever has. To find someone who obviously loves to the point that my children notice it means a lot.

I am simply unwilling to NOT have him just because he is four hours away. I do not see the distance as a burden-rather a blessing that it was close enough for us to find each other.

My final thoughts...
You get out of anything what you put into it. LDR or not.