[Dance-with-me]

What a wonderful, affirming thread!!

I am a nurturing femme: A parent to other people's children and my grandchildren not of my bloodline, kisser of booboos, fixer of meals for friends, family and strangers, maker of chicken soup when you have a cold, hugs fierce enough to break through many insecurities, shoulders strong enough to stay unbowed when someone I love needs to lean on them or cry on them. I am now planning to nurture some more foster kids in my life, perhaps even adopt a child who needs a nurturing parent.

I am an easy-going femme: It took exiting a high-drama marriage to really affirm (much to my delight) that I'm actually a very low-drama easy-going optimistic adaptable person.

I am a geek femme: Engineering degree, teacher of geek topics, and very excited about trying to move towards teaching math. I love math. How to entertain a geek femme? Give her some colored bucky balls (tiny magnetic balls) and let her make jewelry from them.

I am a capable femme: I am the ultimate pragmatic, practical Taurus. I have supported myself since I was 17. I have a power tool collection that many butches would envy, and my dream is to find a butch who could work beside me on doing things around my house, and who would be turned on by the sight of my deep-slut-red nails wrapped around a circular saw instead of being put off that a femme would rather receive a sliding compound miter saw for her birthday than an expensive bit of jewelry.

I am an intelligent femme: I crave conversation that requires me to think, that calls on the things that I know or teaches me new things, that challenges me and opens my mind.

I am a "low" femme: I wear makeup when I go out, but not for work or everyday. A 2.5" heel is a "high heel" for me these days. I live in sun dresses in the summer and occasionally wear skirts, tights and boots in the winter but you'll find me most often in jeans -- or, if it's around the house, in sweatpants and no bra.

I am a strong femme: Strong enough to weather a lot of crap in my life. Strong enough to pick myself up and figure out how to walk away from that crap once and for all, and never go back to it. Strong enough to take care of myself. Strong enough to let others take care of me when I need or deserve it. Strong enough to face my fears. Strong enough to work through the rough times when fear or sadness have me by the throat. Strong enough to actively and deliberately seek out the good thing in life, and build myself a life bolstered by love.

I am a femme who loves to dance. I heard this quote the other day: "I wonder, where do we find home, that absolute soul satisfying comfort without question? In the name of what do you do what you do, what drives you, what are you passionate about, what makes you happy - not just what makes you smile, but what transports you and makes you take a deep breath and dissolves your brain, courses through your body, an absolute merger of body and mind and spirit, leaving thoughts behind, emotion just coursing through you, where do you find that?" I find that level of passionate happiness in two things: In dancing, even if by myself in the living room, and in the butch/femme dance.

I am an old school femme who craves the butch-femme dance, not because I'm incapable of doing things for myself but because in every dance there is a lead and a follow, doing different but complementary things; both take equal skill, and the dance is all the more beautiful if both love their part of the dance. I love the dance, that yin to my yang, that energy that complements my own in every way.

I am a single femme who would love to find the butch of my dreams, someone to treasure me and talk to me about everything under the sun, someone to dance with me even just swaying in a circle around the living room, someone who appreciates all I am and wants to be the best she can be for me, someone who trusts me and takes care of me and lets me take care of her right back, someone who believes that lesbian bed death is a disease that must be eradicated from our community and is willing to aggressively do her part to ensure that it never infests our home, someone who means what she promises, knows that relationships take at last as much time and maintenance as a home or a care and is willing to do that work, in sickness and in health, for better or worse, for richer for poorer, as long as we both shall live. Applications are being accepted.

(oh, and I'm obviously a very verbose femme who is incapable of brevity!!)