[Kobi]

I wish I knew how to multi-quote. Would make this easier.

Others seem to be seeing things in this article on the sperm donor that I dont.

I dont see anything about the lesbian couple breaking up or seeking state assistance because of a break up. It says. " in October, the state of Kansas filed a petition seeking to have Marotta declared the father of the child and financially responsible for her after the couple encountered money difficulties."

Every state has rules and regulations which govern the circumstances under which anyone can receive taxpayer aid. Each state exercises its own judgement as to how to pursue other potential avenues of support as a condition for assistance. Whether I like this or not is a moot point.

People applying for state assistance can sometimes be put between a rock and a hard place. You want assistance, you jump thu the hoops. If you dont jump thru the hoops, assistance is denied. Clearly, a difficult position to be in.

The law in Kansas is very clear. Use a sperm bank and the donor is protected. Dont use a sperm bank and you open yourself up to potential problems. Again, one doesnt have to agree with it.

I find it very odd that anyone would use Craigslist to find a sperm donor. I find it odder that anyone would actually answer such an ad.

I doubt if one can only afford 50 bucks for sperm, the likelihood that one can afford to have the donor tested for potential dieases and genetic problems, do a background check, and the other things one might want to know about, is slim to none.

I suspect if you cant afford the above, it is highly unlikely anyone consulted an attorney to be advised of the potential pitfalls in a private contract given the prevailing law or used an attorney to draw up the paperwork.

The comments suggesting an ulterior motive on the part of the biological mother and what seems to be a willingness to excuse the sperm donor feels misogynistic to me.

The entire story is odd to me. Then again, people never cease to amaze me.