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Originally Posted by GraffitiBoi
Popping in to say hi and maybe get some advice. There is a femme I have had a crush on for 2 years now. I never pursued it because she is straight. I found out recently that she actually is interested in me but is unsure of the whole trans thing. She knows I am trans and had told a mutual friend of ours several months ago that she would be interested after I have the final surgery.
Somehow she got the mistaken idea talking to me that I was going to have lower surgery. I am not. The technology for it just isn't good enough (in my opinion) and there are things (sexual) that I like about being female from the waist down and won't trade that if the technology for phalloplasty isn't good enough for me.
When I told this to our friend he actually went back and told her. Somehow he worked it into the conversation naturally. Apparently my 'crush' talks about me a lot with a couple of different friends of ours. They have all come to me and told me about their conversations. Usually if she wants to know something personal she just talks to me. BUT... she has talked to more than one person about being with me. Now she has said (verified by more than one source) that she's interested regardless if I have the surgery or not.
So my dilemma... Do I try and ask her out? I don't think asking her will ruin the friendship. That's pretty strong between us. I don't know if I am brave enough or bold enough to ask her and I'm not sure how to ask her out. I've dated a straight woman before. It was the longest lasting and most loving relationship I have ever had. (That ex told me yesterday that she misses me and would date me again. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going back to her.)
I'm rambling. I'm tired. I have a touch of the flu. LOL But... I will be seeing this person tonight when I go in to work. She's supposed to be coming over to my place sometime soon to pick up some furniture I'm giving to her and she will probably come to my birthday party in a few weeks.
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I think you should definitely ask her out man. What have you got to lose? I think a good idea would be nice dinner somewhere its quiet you can talk or maybe going out for some coffee. It's really a win / win situation.
Get to feeling better buddy.