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julieisafemme · 01-22-2013, 09:06 PM

This is all hard to hear. I am praying for all of you survivors and hoping all the tests come back clean Deb and Dapper. My Mom is on hospice now for lung cancer with brain, spine and liver mets. I just spent the weekend with her to give my older sister a break from 24/7 caregiving. We are so blessed in that my Mom is living now in one half of a duplex owned by my brother. Her rent, utilities are paid for by him. He came and helped me take her to get an eye exam and some new glasses the other day at Costco. She loved being out and shopping!

My other sister lives in the other side of the duplex. She is an amazing cook and whatever my Mom wants for dinner she makes. They look at cooking magazines and watch cooking shows and then my Mom says "I want this for dinner"! I am the cleaner. I scrub and organize and take care of keeping the house in order. It takes a village to raise a child but it also takes a village to help someone transition!

I worry about my own health and my partner's. Mortality is a bitch! I am in a limbo state right now. I am not the best partner, Mom or rattie caregiver. My own house is a mess. It is hard. I am though so grateful that I have this time with my Mom.

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julieisafemme Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married to Greyson Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In the present Posts: 828 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,156 Thanked 3,434 Times in 660 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	This is all hard to hear. I am praying for all of you survivors and hoping all the tests come back clean Deb and Dapper. My Mom is on hospice now for lung cancer with brain, spine and liver mets. I just spent the weekend with her to give my older sister a break from 24/7 caregiving. We are so blessed in that my Mom is living now in one half of a duplex owned by my brother. Her rent, utilities are paid for by him. He came and helped me take her to get an eye exam and some new glasses the other day at Costco. She loved being out and shopping! My other sister lives in the other side of the duplex. She is an amazing cook and whatever my Mom wants for dinner she makes. They look at cooking magazines and watch cooking shows and then my Mom says "I want this for dinner"! I am the cleaner. I scrub and organize and take care of keeping the house in order. It takes a village to raise a child but it also takes a village to help someone transition! I worry about my own health and my partner's. Mortality is a bitch! I am in a limbo state right now. I am not the best partner, Mom or rattie caregiver. My own house is a mess. It is hard. I am though so grateful that I have this time with my Mom. __________________ Happiness Bubbling!