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Originally Posted by starryeyes
I could give 2 hoots if I am invisible in the straight world...though the reactions are interesting. It's in the gay world, I feel hurt. Our own community stereotypes us and can't recognize us. I hate being the "straight girl" with a butch partner, or an outsider of the community because "I'm not really gay". Bah!
But, when you do get recognized... It makes it so worth it!  |
I really want to echo this. I felt it most when I was coming out and was trying to find my place in the community. I never felt like I belonged and I felt like I stuck out. Gay boys thought I was just an unsure hag. Lesbians didn't welcome me because they thought I was either a straight girl, bi or experimenting
The "you're not really gay" used to hurt the most.
Now I just respond with "No, I'm just queer and fabulous." and flash a smile.
I own my femme. Visible or invisible