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Bad_boi · 02-19-2013, 01:46 AM

Do you still feel like you should be welcomed into women's only space after you own your male ID?
If the women in question want me in their space that is their place to welcome me. For the most part I don't feel comfortable in women's spaces.

How do you try to show respect for the women that need and want thier own space?
Stay out of it

Did you feel a loss of something after a certain point in your transition?
-Some of this may not be PC, but I am being honest here-

I feel like I have lost the LGBT community. My identity is kinda complicated. I am panromantic but only feel comfortable being physically intimate with genderqueers, women some butches and rarely FTMs. So I appear "Straight" for the most part.

In queer spaces I feel kinda left out. I pass so I don't fit in with a lot of other T guys. I feel like I make the jealous and I have been told this before. I also don't like being perceived as a gay male because I am not.

I also tend to offend people in queer spaces because I come off as a staight cismale and I try to be PC but sometimes I fall short which becomes a shit storm of angry people all tag teaming me while I try to explain. I understand that people are angry and hurt when it comes to some topics but becoming angry at a person who is willing to listen and learn is really stupid. If I made a mistake yelling and throwing a rage fit at me instead of politely correcting me is not going to make me want to be in queer space or fight along side for a cause. It makes me want to ignore and walk away. I am generally nice and try to use the right terms but sometimes I stumble over words. It is like walking on eggshells. I am even dreading going to pride because I don't feel welcome.

It is sad to lose what you think is going to be your biggest support and your "family".

02-19-2013, 01:46 AM	#20
Bad_boi Member How Do You Identify?: Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status: Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010 Location: Seattle Posts: 727 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 0	Do you still feel like you should be welcomed into women's only space after you own your male ID? If the women in question want me in their space that is their place to welcome me. For the most part I don't feel comfortable in women's spaces. How do you try to show respect for the women that need and want thier own space? Stay out of it Did you feel a loss of something after a certain point in your transition? -Some of this may not be PC, but I am being honest here- I feel like I have lost the LGBT community. My identity is kinda complicated. I am panromantic but only feel comfortable being physically intimate with genderqueers, women some butches and rarely FTMs. So I appear "Straight" for the most part. In queer spaces I feel kinda left out. I pass so I don't fit in with a lot of other T guys. I feel like I make the jealous and I have been told this before. I also don't like being perceived as a gay male because I am not. I also tend to offend people in queer spaces because I come off as a staight cismale and I try to be PC but sometimes I fall short which becomes a shit storm of angry people all tag teaming me while I try to explain. I understand that people are angry and hurt when it comes to some topics but becoming angry at a person who is willing to listen and learn is really stupid. If I made a mistake yelling and throwing a rage fit at me instead of politely correcting me is not going to make me want to be in queer space or fight along side for a cause. It makes me want to ignore and walk away. I am generally nice and try to use the right terms but sometimes I stumble over words. It is like walking on eggshells. I am even dreading going to pride because I don't feel welcome. It is sad to lose what you think is going to be your biggest support and your "family".