i'll be 58 on April 8 ... just walked away from the longest relationship of my life..9.5 years... and i'll tell the truth... i'm scared to death..i've walked,run,crawled,mambo-ed and slip-slided away from all kinds of lovers in the past.. but at this age..i suddenly feel the pressure of time that i never felt before...like i don't have time to waste now in a relationship that doesn't work out.. i'm pissed about this last one because i surely didn't have 9.5 years to waste.. i never thought in these terms when i was younger..even in my 40s i felt like i had all the time in the world to find the right woman.. and i have no idea of how to even begin finding that woman now..my flirting/dating skills were largely invisible at the best of times...now i'm just standing here going.." ummm..hello?"..one thing i do know... i'm really looking forward to going out with women around my own age .. my ex is 21 years younger than i am..it wasn't a problem at the beginning..but by the end i think the pretty vast difference had taken it's toll... now all i have to do is get up the nerve to talk to some fabulous 40,50,60-something femmes...anybody want to help me i surely won't object..have a fabulous day everyone