[Kobi]

The most important thing I ever learned about relationships is to not waste time and energy reinventing the wheel. The other person in the relationship wants basically the same things you do.

Namely, to feel loved, cherished, appreciated, respected, cared for and about, desired and desirable, important, special, safe and secure etc.

How you demonstrate these might be different, but they should guide everything you do and say. As people show these in different ways, it helps when your styles mesh. If you arent meshing well in the actions department, it helps for both to be able and willing to listen, learn and make adjustments as necessary.

For me, it all boils down to action and behavior, not words and intentions.