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Originally Posted by SaltyButch

I am sitting here in a quandry, as to why some can be so cruel, perhaps they don't mean to be but they seemingly are unaware as to how the words they write or speak can cut to the core of someone.

What prompted this vent, is that today I received an email in regards to a picture I have posted somewhere, it is with a friend and shows us smiling. The email was written as such " I notice you have two different women showing in your pics, my friend wants to know if you are the blonde one or the disfigured one beside her." I was quite taken aback by this as I am the one she is referring to as disfigured, I have looked at the picture and have no idea what she is referring to. My response to her was, perhaps your "friend" could identify what she sees as a disfigurement, which happens to be me as I don't see one.

I am trying to grasp why I can't shake this and I think I have determined that it has brought back a memory from my childhood, when a man in my neighbourhood called me a monkey. Obviously this happened many years ago but has stayed with me, again a person uttering something which has left a scar.

I will no doubt get past this, because I am a strong, confident and yes an attractive individual, but it still hurts that someone who doesn't know me
has lashed out at me.

So, if anyone reading this can take something away from it, please think twice before you write a disparaging remark or utter something in anger or in an offhanded manner, for you never know what those words may do to that person on any given day.

I am really sorry that this happened to you. Sometimes people are just cruel to get a reaction out of others and that kind of psychological abuse is truly hard to understand. I really do not think that there was any reality in that comment just a form of bullying. As a person who has been bullied since childhood, I feel the sting in that sort of action and I just wanted to let you know that when people act out like that, it says something about them, not you.

How sad for them to have nothing positive to contribute. In contrast, this post just made a very positive contribution to the world by reminding us of the power of our words.