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Originally Posted by Cid
I have a bit of a dilemma and don't really know how to deal with this. My friend's brother and his g/f have a drinking problem, there's no doubt about that. However, the g/f seems to have her wits about her more so than my friend's brother. My friend is always talking about what's going on between them and I want to side with the g/f but I know that won't go well. On top of that, my friend is accusing the g/f of doing the exact same thing that my friend does (twisting the truth. I love her as my friend, but sometimes she see's things different than the way it really is).
I try very hard to just stay out of it and listen without comment, but sometimes it's really hard because I want her to face the fact that her brother needs help.
I don't judge either one because I don't think it's fair to do that. I haven't had to walk in their shoes, so I can I know why they are the way they are.
This is what I'm dealing with and what's on my mind at the moment.
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Sorry to hear you have to deal with that, as a sober person who is an alcoholic and also an addiction counselor- I can suggest maybe trying Alanon which is to help family and friends cope with others drinking
Unfortunately unless they're ready to stop not much you can do to convince them- its strange thing really to have the choice btwn your life falling apart and losing everything and stopping drinking.
When it comes to addiction it centers in the area of the brain that responds to survival- the brain has discovered that the same chemicals are produced when getting loaded that are produced when eating, sleeping, and having sex. so it equates chemicals like alcohol or drugs with getting its basic primal needs met
think of this when we eat a satisfying meal 100 units of dopamine are released- this tells us food fuels us productively.
an orgasm produces 200 units of dopamine
getting loaded produces over 1000 units- therefore our brain sees this as a more efficient option to meet its needs. SADLY