[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by calibri

I've found that quite a good way of finding the kind of person you want is online dating. Yes, I know, it has its downfalls, but really it's just a mixed bag like with meeting people in person. The beauty is that you get to know a lot about people (and have a good guess at whether they're suitable for you or not) just based on what they say on their profile. You don't have to waste time on entire dates screening people when a quick glance of their profile gives you a good indication of compatibility.

Originally Posted by *Anya*

I agree completely. I am very honest with what I am looking for in my profile. I am looking for a life partner at this stage of my life and dating is the only way I know of to possibly meet "the one". As stressful as dating can be, I also find it fun and interesting to meet bright women with such varied backgrounds and occupations.

I believe that chemistry is everything. It can't be manufactured or wished to happen; it either is there or not. Unfortunately, there is no way to know if it is present or not, without meeting someone in person!

There really, for me, is no way to know without that meeting. Once you know if there is chemistry, you still have to find out if values, beliefs, outlook on life matches or meshes with yours. That takes a lot more time and energy but I feel it is totally worth it unless one wants to spend the rest of ones life alone.

I do not.

Shortly after I wrote this I did find "the one". The one I laugh with ( sometimes at) cry with, act like a silly, goofy girl, talk with about everything under the sun and listen to her own hopes, fears, dreams and joyful moments and dry her eyes when her butch eyes leak and the most special and life-affirming of all: we make love, every glorious chance that we get.

Sometimes I have to pinch my self that I am so lucky. What did I want?

What I have found: a brainy, sharp, attractive, funny, loving butch who loves me, thinks I am really funny and laughs at all of my jokes (even the groaners)!