Yes and yes!
CCB, I just figured out who you are and am so happy to see you here! Long time no see!
When I think of the Highs and Lows of visibility or labels at all, I am fine with tossing it all out the window...except for labels can be useful when trying to put in words what I might be looking for sexually. Does that make sense?
Even with the label "Femme" come so many expectations of who I might or might not be...and what sort of person I might seek.
Really at this point, even I am not sure.