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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Here is the thing Rev...

It does not just happen in dating... Some folks throw their masculinity about like it's their job or someone assigned them to this.. Am I making sense? There are guys out there who will not be talked to by an assertive woman or a woman who holds power because they are to masculine to be talked to in that manner or my favorite they will cutesify you and give you a pet name so that they are comfy and can talk to you like a guy talks to a girl...

I don't think your woman is anything like Mrs Bunker cause well that woman put up with alot of shit from fucking Archie...

I don't think you are anywhere near an Archie and if you were, I see the Mrs wacking you with a shoe...

Do you guys have what seems like a traditional exchange when our, yes, but what I see is a guy, treating his woman right as they should, cause if I was a guy and my girl was giving me the allowance to dive into her sugary goodness, fuck yeah I would be all over the place making sure she was comfy and catered to..

That's just me though...

Seems like it all boils down to the energy exchange the couple has.... and how they nurture this as well as negotiate it.

Thinking that an asshole is an asshole, no matter the energy or gender. When I look at my relationships and even at my parents, I see a varied constellation with each partner being able to be who they are. Sure, issues/problems existed, but so did the will to overcome them. I am a very fortunate person. This just isn't how many people have experienced relationships. And there is always work to be done on myself.

There is a very big difference between integrating what gets put in the traditional pile of roles and how people adapt these to their relationship. I certainly knew in my last relationship that the femme I was with was no door mat! No way! Nor was I (I tend to be a care-taker, which has not always served me well). Sure, we had some of the traditional stuff going on... but there was a clear line with both of us respecting each other and ourselves. Thinking that any of us could end up in an abusive situation no matter how we put this together.