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imperfect_cupcake · 07-22-2013, 08:46 AM

I know people get facial ticks over certain things - bothered/irritated. Like spelling. Not having the ability for it, I don't care. However there is one thing that does each drive me a bit mental... The use of the word "gender" when they mean the word "sex". Or vice versa. I know its probably my scientific family background that makes this such an irritation but I do sometimes just want grab someone and tell them sex is the physical expression of dimorphism. It is chromosomal expression or the secondary sex characteristics someone physically has. Gender is identity. Transgender is not the same thing as transexual. When I say someone has made peace with being female, that does not mean they ID as a woman. It means they have accepted their female body and work with it without the struggle they once had. They may or may not be a woman. They may or may not use she or he. Making peace with ones body has nothing to do with gender.

When I was at odds with mine, when I was body disphoric, it fucked with my head a lot but I had no issues with my gender aside from feminist issues with gender role expectations - which had nothing to do with my body disphoria.

Body disphoria is something most of my partners have had though not all. Some never had it, some only have small issues like "why don't I have a cock with my vagina?" And some have disphoria to the point they considered transition at one point or another but after some time, found the disphoria faded and made peace with their female body and did not feel the need anymore. They are accepting of being female and not a woman.

Many are fine with being a woman and not feminine and having a brain dick.

But the confusing the two makes clear communication really difficult at times.

07-22-2013, 08:46 AM	#15939
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I know people get facial ticks over certain things - bothered/irritated. Like spelling. Not having the ability for it, I don't care. However there is one thing that does each drive me a bit mental... The use of the word "gender" when they mean the word "sex". Or vice versa. I know its probably my scientific family background that makes this such an irritation but I do sometimes just want grab someone and tell them sex is the physical expression of dimorphism. It is chromosomal expression or the secondary sex characteristics someone physically has. Gender is identity. Transgender is not the same thing as transexual. When I say someone has made peace with being female, that does not mean they ID as a woman. It means they have accepted their female body and work with it without the struggle they once had. They may or may not be a woman. They may or may not use she or he. Making peace with ones body has nothing to do with gender. When I was at odds with mine, when I was body disphoric, it fucked with my head a lot but I had no issues with my gender aside from feminist issues with gender role expectations - which had nothing to do with my body disphoria. Body disphoria is something most of my partners have had though not all. Some never had it, some only have small issues like "why don't I have a cock with my vagina?" And some have disphoria to the point they considered transition at one point or another but after some time, found the disphoria faded and made peace with their female body and did not feel the need anymore. They are accepting of being female and not a woman. Many are fine with being a woman and not feminine and having a brain dick. But the confusing the two makes clear communication really difficult at times.