[Gemme]

Originally Posted by softness

When I posted my question, I didnt want to be rescued...lol nor did I want any 12 year old to get tied to a tree and whacked. But I did see a few fellas appear ...which is a good thing.

So ... lets talk about first dates. I havent been on a first date in a few years. So I am kinda rusty.... I want to hear about your feelings, memories, hopes, dreams, fears, etc. What would be a turn off for you? What would be a green flag? What would you wear? ...anyone game to talk about this? Just so we have a conversation starter?

I love dates and especially first dates. I haven't had very horrible first and/or blind date stories thus far, so I still enjoy them.

Green flags: I like the treatment I associate with OFOS butches/FTMs....opening the door, hand at the base of my back, pulling my chair out/pushing it in for me, walking on the curb side of the street with me...and so on....

Having a sense of humor, especially if it's a bit twisted or dry.

Being considerate, expressive and showing a little bit of goofiness wouldn't hurt either.

Red flags: "I forgot my wallet" I have no issue with going halvsies or even paying for the meal, if that is what we've agreed to, but don't pull that. If it's accidental, then that says something about how important this evening is to you. If it's "accidentally" on purpose, then that shows me that you lack in several areas.

"My ex did this, did that, went there, is this..." I'm not on a date with your ex. A passing comment--fine. A bio and indepth discussion? Not interested.

Giving me a list of all of your faults and/or issues and/or medications you are on and/or how much time you've spent behind bars...unless you are trying to run me off (a simple "this has been nice, but I must leave now" would work too)....revealing too much too soon is something that I struggle with so if there are two of us doing it, it's going to be a disaster from the word go.

Lacking the ability to dress oneself well and/or perform at least general hygiene routines and/or being rude to the waitstaff will get you a quick goodbye. I don't do grubby, stinky or rude.

The attire would depend on where we went and what we were doing. Bowling and a movie would garner a different dress code than a romantic dinner at Anthony's on the Waterfront, for example.