[Soft*Silver]

I too am weary of the "speed dating speech" ...especially when it gets too "too much too soon" information. I do admire someone who will tell me they have a drug or drinking problem, only because I am in recovery. I had one person do that for me and I was really appreciative. I still dated them too! Honesty is what its about...

I like the build up of a first date...the an-tisssss-AA - payyyyyy - SHUNNNNN...

One of my fav of all times first dates was when a dozen of red roses came to my door one hour before he was to arrive...we had met thru a gay news rag personals section. We had talked but never met until that first date...lord I loved his style!

I also noted in posts where some said they hadnt had first dates..that they just got into relationships. I LOVE to date. And sometimes I will date a few people at a time. That stops the minute I decide to get intimate sexually with someone. Then I date only that person. But it takes awhile to get there, especially if its local. LDRs are a different kind of dating. There is an assumption made that if you talk for awhile (months, not weeks) and you go to meet someone, that probably (not definetely) the two will consumate the dating with sex. I dont think its a given..at least not in my book. But there is a likelyhood....if there is that connection in person as well as on the phone and internet...

I personally like wearing dresses on first dates. I am not a jeans person.

I would do my nails ...and probably buy a new eye shadow just for the occassion. And sexy underwear. He will never see them (not on the first date) but they will make me feel wonderful and sexy. I will wear my trademark scent...and shampoo my hair with some pretty smelling shampoo...I try real hard not to overdo scents, tho. It can have the reverse affect if its done too loudly...

turn offs for me would be excessive drinking, bullfrog political speak, anti Ex talk, poor hygiene or rumpled clothes, a dirty mouth (and I dont mean brushing is needed), road rage, insulting behavior toward anyone at anytime including the waiter, and a dirty messy car.

Green flags...on time, smiling, obvious delight, maybe a flower, taking my arm, opening doors, listening when I talk, noticing my nails or hair, asking questions, simple but tasteful and clean attire, clean car with soft music, and always smiling back at my smiles...keeping focused on the date instead of the potential (not counting how many days you can move in), and casually subtly letting me know there is no pressure for sex..only for my attentions...

wow...I am feeling...well...like I wanna first date! smiling....not yet...but soon...

ok...my next question is...is it ok for the girl to ask you out?