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Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss
No, I'm thinking that you are so freaking naughty gorgeous and amazing they are struck dumb and perhaps can't imagine that you would ever go out with them.
You know, like the Beauty and the Beast, or Beauty Queen and Jerry Lewis character in the movies.
Maybe more winking and "hello handsome" comments will change that?
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That's very flattering, thank you
your fiver is in the post!
but I don't think so...
I get stared at, no smile then when I smile and look bright and happy at the starer, no smile in response and they look away. Not exactly welcoming. I have a good set of balls on me but standing around, arms crossed, not speaking, responding with monosylables, staring and not smiling is actually just a little too "offish" even for my steel huevos. I think winking and saying "hi handsome" would probably scare the shit out of them if a smile gets nothing in return. I don't like scaring people. I get told enough that I'm intimidating/scary.
*wilt*
In London I found it much easier to talk to random strangers at dyke/queer events. A bright smile got one in return. That meant I could approach and say hello. Or they could. I find that "resting grumpface" seems to be the defaulting setting of anyone who is masculine of centre here.
When I first showed up here, I was bouncy, happy, flirty, talked to people I didn't know, introduced myself... bought people fucking drinks... (no one bought me one back btw). And I just lost my bounce over time, tbh.
People at bus stops and in shops are more friendly than the butches and dykes at events. Actually, that's a lie. Some of the femmes are quite friendly.
I think it has to do with me going on my own. I don't think people trust someone on their own at an event. #mustbeanaxemurderer
I don't have queer or gay mates here. So. Kinda catch 22...