[QUOTE=honeybarbara;854908]I get told enough that I'm intimidating/scary.
*wilt*
Kick them to the curb, if some one can't muster the cojones to match yours, not worth the lipstick.
In London I found it much easier to talk to random strangers at dyke/queer events. A bright smile got one in return. That meant I could approach and say hello. Or they could. I find that "resting grumpface" seems to be the defaulting setting of anyone who is masculine of centre here.
I am surrounded by lesbian ID folks who abhor the B/F dynamic until they decide they are crushing on a femme. Gets weird real quick.
When I first showed up here, I was bouncy, happy, flirty, talked to people I didn't know, introduced myself... bought people fucking drinks... (no one bought me one back btw).
That is very uncharacteristic I'm sure. Sad to read that. And I just lost my bounce over time, tbh.
People at bus stops and in shops are more friendly than the butches and dykes at events. Actually, that's a lie. Some of the femmes are quite friendly.
I think it has to do with me going on my own. I don't think people trust someone on their own at an event. #mustbeanaxemurderer
I don't have queer or gay mates here. So. Kinda catch 22...