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The wife and I did our five wishes as someone before me posted. We also have a living will. When it comes to it, she and I are absolutely polar opposites. She wants to donate and then be buried. I too want to donate, but I want to be cremated. I haven't tried hard to change her mind, but I intend to keep trying.
I want no funeral, no party, nothing. I want my children to be able to identify me if they feel they need to see, but otherwise, that's it.
My wife will see to distribution of my estate. It's a little touchy because we've been together for going on eight years, but my children, well, three of them have been in my life a lot longer.
I also put my daughter in charge of some of my financial crap because I think she will need to deal with something important because she's insecure. She's also worried her world will fall apart if I die, so I set aside something for her to do to tidy up things, to help her work through it.
I expect the wife to keep the house and the kids to stay here if they want. Her sons (my two youngest) are included. How she divides up the household things will be up to her, I expect the kids to take what they want, what means something to them. And of course I've some money put away for the kids each too. Legally mine or not.

That's all it is.
It's really simple. And the way things are going, I can expect my wife to get my social security when I die, which is important to me.
If my wife precedes me, everything will fall to my son to do what she was to do, and the house will be left for whichever kids want to live here, or they can sell it and split the profits.
We even have directives for our pets (mostly the parrots because they live eighty years or so).

Right now I'm working on a few things that I want each of the children to have, like a hope chest, but unlike a hope chest. Most of you have parents and siblings and relatives, but I have my children and my wife, and I want to leave them something remarkable that will resonate with each of them.