I have been with butches who have a cock and those who do not. What I don't get is defining butch -- and femmes do this too -- by whether someone has a cock or not. As many people have said on other threads, some femmes have cock. People of all genders have cock. People of all genders do not.
I still see that association made here all the time. Cock equals butch. Someone said recently that she only dates butches with cocks. That's cool. But as I recall she went on to equate butch with having cock. I doubt she meant it the way it read. I didn't call her on it, and I don't think anyone else did. But it's very casual and common in our community to equate the two. Doesn't work. It's just not the way the world is. People are too complex for that.
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