[GeeGina]

I don't need to have love to have sex. Yes - it's way better when I care about the person I'm enjoying it with, but not always required.

In fact, sex can be pretty damn good when there isn't a strong emotional component. That moment in time when two people are in the same space of mind at the same time and just want to get laid. No one's trying to reconnect, or respond to the other's larger emotional needs...it's just plain lust.

When I was in college and "out" in every sense of the word - out of the house, out of the closet, out in a new city, out on my own - I thrived on booty calls and hook ups. There wasn't much left after school and two jobs, so the casual hook up was a great way to blow off a little steam. I waited tables a girl bar here in Philly, so meeting people wasn't a problem. Another benefit was learning to expand my taste in partners.

I'm still a believer in the idea that whatever happens between consenting adults is their business. I also think it's fun to give in to those base urges we all have...every once in a while. Two people have to be on the same page, though. My mistake in the past with my recent booty call was being too emotionally involved. That blows up the simple beauty of the booty call/hook up.