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Little Fish · 10-25-2013, 12:41 PM

Medusa, I think you raise an interesting topic here--I know I've had the same conversation with both butch and femme friends over the years. While I don't have a lot of time right now, I'll share a few quick thoughts:

-all but two of my queer/gay friends are femme or *not* butch--and those two are both hetero-identified trans men

-I'd like more butch friends but find connecting with them (literally, as in actually *finding* them) challenging (are we *that* rare??!)

-this same conversation came up between spritzerj and myself--she put it best I think..when explaining why butches seem to have more femme friends and vice versa she said, "even in our platonic friendships, the pairing of our butch and femme energies underscore the complimentary nature and goodness of our fit"...that really resonated with me

-my concern for butches...do we become we socially isolated in the same way hetero males do when they marry? I watch over and over how husbands lose their friends after they marry women--anyone have this concern?

Good poll Medusa, keep us posted--thank you

10-25-2013, 12:41 PM	#11
Little Fish Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: female ones, will also respond to babe, boi and Romeo Relationship Status: Happy :-) Join Date: May 2012 Location: apearldiver@gmail.com Posts: 349 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,655 Thanked 1,886 Times in 321 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	my 0.02 Medusa, I think you raise an interesting topic here--I know I've had the same conversation with both butch and femme friends over the years. While I don't have a lot of time right now, I'll share a few quick thoughts: -all but two of my queer/gay friends are femme or not butch--and those two are both hetero-identified trans men -I'd like more butch friends but find connecting with them (literally, as in actually finding them) challenging (are we that rare??!) -this same conversation came up between spritzerj and myself--she put it best I think..when explaining why butches seem to have more femme friends and vice versa she said, "even in our platonic friendships, the pairing of our butch and femme energies underscore the complimentary nature and goodness of our fit"...that really resonated with me -my concern for butches...do we become we socially isolated in the same way hetero males do when they marry? I watch over and over how husbands lose their friends after they marry women--anyone have this concern? Good poll Medusa, keep us posted--thank you