[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by Nat

I'm not sure if I came up with this terminology or if I ran into it somewhere, but I do believe there's a "relationship black hole" down which at least some of each party's efforts disappears. So I think it's possible for each party to feel like they are doing more of the work. I try to be mindful of the relationship black hole - that not everything I'd like received will be received and not everything sent my way is something I can appreciate or receive or even notice.

As stated earlier though - I'm not the best at relationships.

i am watching this happen in a sister-sister relationship.