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I married heterosexually this past July. I did not change my last name. It has caused so much confusion for everyone in my family and my friends. Everyone wants to address me as Mrs.....and I am still MsTia. We were given checks, addressed to Mr and Mrs.... and we both had to sign them. Both our banks wanted ID for these checks. We had to ask our friends to redo the checks. People have even said this was my way of passive aggressively not wanting to be married.
I have been MsTia for a long long time (29 years) and I dont think I need to change things

chrissy's last name is not one he IDs with. He just recently changed it to this last name, because of a legal loophole. His mother informally changed his name to her second husband's name and no one questioned it because he was so very young, but already in school.Somehow that wasnt an issue until he wanted a drivers license in a different state than his birth one.He had to go thru the legal process to change it back to his birth name. So, he could care less if I took his name.

We have considered finding a last name we both like and changing both of our last names.
but then, why the hassle?We are two old farts who just want to hang out until we die.So much drama involved,from the wedding to the name change to burial plots. I swear we are just 2 hippies passing the days together...