Hi HB, perhaps it is common for femmes to think about changing their name when considering marriage. It never has been for me, and to me it does seem more tied to being a lesbian than being butch. I have always assumed that most likely if I got married we would both keep our names.
The femmes that I have known that have expressed interest in changing their last name (whether with me or someone else) or have changed their last name, to me it has always very much felt like a choice they were making for themselves.
Perhaps femmes do consider changing their names a lot more than butches do. It could be.
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