[willow]

Originally Posted by honeybarbara

the variety is staggering in what people like.

what some people need I would be baffled by or put off from.

what I want, other people would feel totally unnecessary or completely not enough.

but that is the whole point of hanging out with each other: to find out and to see if it's a match.

for example - I don't care if people answer their phone. people have jobs that do demand an answer, the have kids or parents in care. They have other friends that may have an emergency (I was out on a date once and my ex called me in hysterics because her new partner was stuck in a very dangerous flood and did not know how to get hold of her, she was missing and she needed just someone calm to talk to her for a few minutes and help her out. My date totally understood and was glad I was open hearted enough to take the call).

I like going to a pub. I don't want a meal. snacks and some drinks and a long conversation and a good laugh.

that's a first hang out with me. Don't fuss but be cool, be a bit smooth. make me laugh, be open, tell me stories about your life.

You are right, my no phone ban was too sweeping. If there are dependent children or elderly relatives to consider then that's a whole different thing.