totally agree Parker... there is no such thing as one true way for femmes and butches to enjoy sex together... and I think it is really damaging all these false ideals have been erected that we feel pressure to adhere to or else we're not "real". most important thing between partner is honest communication. I certainly don't think my butch should have to enjoy being sucked off... or just put up with it for my sake... and I would never judge her if she didn't want it... in the younger years of the butch-femme community where I live there were a few people who really tried to dictate what was 'real' butch or femme to the rest of us and it was so toxic and vile and had horrible impacts on many people's self-esteem and feeling of belonging... that shit can go to hell!
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