I have had the experience, not just of butches treating me this way, but other lesbians as well and trans men and gay men too.
the thing is, I AM a ditz and I can be kinda flaky - and I LOVE shopping and makeup and gossip and stuff, which some people code as 'shallow' - but none of these things mean I am stupid or deserving of condescension!! In fact I am WHIP smart and very insightful. It's just this misogyny that is still so prevalent, that devalues qualities seem as "feminine" and as deserving of contempt. It stinks!
Definitely not all butches... many are very respectful... but I have absolutely noticed the dynamic at work often.
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