Oh, one of my favorite things to do!!
OK, now that I have that out of the way, I can REALLY share about this topic!
I came out late in life, so had LOTS of experience with bj's on bio men. Never really did a lot for ME, other than strangely gave me a sense of power, knowing just how crazed I could get them by things I could do with my lips, tongue and mouth. Never liked the end RESULT of that act, but hey.
So fast forward to my coming out at the age of 49. Had a cute little boi that used to pack only for play. Part of our play sometimes was the head trip of me going down on hym. Head trip for BOTH of us, I should add. Hy was not, when I got with hym, cock-centric. Hy was absolutely a butch, but was a female ID butch. See, I love the butch-ness of my butch, the male energy, but I am a lesbian and for ME, I also want to KNOW that I am with a woman.
So when I met Wolfz, I could feel the butch energy roaring back at my Femme energy. This is from a woman that is definately a female-ID'ing butch.
At that time, she did not pack, but she later admitted that she had always WANTED to, but had not been with a woman who would accept that part of her. She does not want to be a man, in any way shape or form. I don't want to be WITH a bio-man again, in any way shape or form. And since we are both exceedingly greedy at heart, we both get what we want!
Sooooo, for example, the idea of rolling over in bed, diving under the covers, pulling down her boxers and grabbing that wonderful soft pack and giving it a little squeeze, looking up at her from under the covers with a devilish grin on my face, oh yeah! To me, seeing her face, her eyes, riveted on me and waiting for what is next is priceless! Slowly sticking just the tip of my tongue out, to flick a bit at the underside of the head, oh yeah. Slowly, seductively, licking my lips, before lowering down, engulfing her cock in my mouth, feeling her sigh and hearing her moan, so so very sexy! Sometimes I love it when she grabs ahold of the hair on my head, directing the pace. (so much so that sometimes, if I REALLY want her to do that, I will grab her hand and squeeze her fingers into my hair to give her the nudge to do that! )
Alright, now, just a quick step back.... do we BOTH know and realize that no, she cannot REALLY feel the sensation of my tongue on the underside of the head of her cock? Of course. And that cock is not, I don't THINK to her, an extension of her clit. But what do they say, 90% of the sexual pleasure one gets is found between one's ears? It is all about the mind fuck. To ME, anyway, I love the fact that I am doing this sexy assed stuff to my woman. And it is turning her on tremendously. Which turns me on. Duh.
Like I said before, I am very greedy girl. I want to be able to fuck and suck a woman who is butch. I love the mind fuck that goes with me sucking on her cock. (Hey, I love the fact that the only excess liquid in my mouth is my own saliva!! I mean, eeeuuuuwww!) But I tell ya, after sucking her to her orgasm, I have a lot of saliva in my mouth. I come up from her cock, grab her hand and hold it up against the front of my throat, and let her FEEEEEEL me swallow! Hell yes, to us, I am swallowing her cum!
OK, now back to the fact that we are both greedy... oftentimes (but not all the time, it depends on where her mind is) I will be going down on her, and grasping the base of her cock in one hand, and my other hand will find it's way underneath the base to her pussy, and her clit. See, to me, that is pure mind play for me... I have a cock in my mouth, my wife's cock. And I have my fingers going in her, or flicking her clit. I have the male energy AND the female energy to play with. Heaven! And for her, she gets to be greedy too, allowing me to help her acknowledge her butch side with her cock, and feeling the wonders of woman-on-woman sex!
Don't know if any of this would be for anyone else, but like others here have said, this is what works for US. I have all kinds of ideas on the "hows" to do things, but sometimes I need to think through the "whys". But then again, the whys don't really matter anymore. We just both know we love it!
APG