Just gonna butt in as another single
I agree that sometimes we are single because we have to be... because we need to spend time alone learning more about ourselves, giving ourselves time to mature or heal or get other things done... of course this doesn't make it any less lonely!
I do believe that when you are ready... things happen... so I try not to look too hard or get too wound up thinking about it. I've spent a looong time not putting myself out there as well so I know that lowers my chances considerably
plus I really really have not been ready, not after the last disaster... but it can be very hard to wait... even knowing that. it's hard to be lonely!
tbh though I just want THE ONE. I don't even know if such a thing exists. My last two rships... I knew were not THE one... and inbetween had two affairs with travellers that were fun but they both had to come back to their countries so it wasn't going to last... I wanna settle down!! Like everyone else, I just miss being with someone, someone that I really trust and am totally smitten with... and I want someone I can look toward the future with!