[imperfect_cupcake]

hmn. I actually really enjoy being single. It's kind of a relief tbh. I'm not lonely. I have friends that are close like cousins. I have an incredible flatmate and close friend and five my mates are within walking distance (>30min) of my flat and two more within a 15 min bus ride. Plus I am an urban girl and wouldnt give it up for the world, I do have lots of things I could be doing - if school didnt take up 80% of my time.

What I *do* want is sex. And friendship. But no commitments or obligations. I dont want to date. I want to be friends and I want to have sex. And someone who can sleep with me and afterwards hang out in bed and chat and laugh and build a friendship from that, while having complete independance of action and decision... like friends give each other, is it. Just keep the romantic stuff for now. Show me what a good time we can have in bed, show me I can tell you anything and you me, make me laugh and let me see that someone is

1) emotionally stable
2) laid back
3) good sexual chemistry
4) can argue with me without awkwardness and laugh and joke
5) understand playful sarcasm
6) can build a true friendship with me and care about me and how I am, more than petty possesiveness
7) can laugh at themselves
8) obviously needs to be confident enough to be able to have sex and slowly build a friendship - so knows how to keep emotional boundries, be practical and helpful rather than a die hard traditional romantic. I don't trust people at the mercy of their emotions. Who fall in love easily and wear their hearts on their sleeves. Those have been the ones who fall in love with *other* people really easily once the honeymoon phase wears off.

When I take my time having sex and getting to know someone as a friend and seeing if I can trust them and how even keeled they are, THEN I will make dedicated life long commitment to someone. Be it monogamy or nonmonogamy, I am happy in both.

But I'm happy single so not concerned about how long this will take.

I know most people dont wanna hear this. what they want is a girl that will die at their feet of love and have them be their everything and want to be their princess of the stars.... tell me about my eyes.

But that's not me. I want to have something far more quiet, deep, long built, and long action. Hot smouldery coals you can stoke and add more to every moring and it doesnt go out, even though on the surface it looks quiet and utilitarian. Not fireworks. I've had AMPLE fireworks to last me the rest of my life. thanks. pass. I've had love at first sight. thanks. lovely. tick that box. I've been in small "L" love quite a few times and three times in Big L Love, and now I'd rather slowly build in love, rather than fall in it.

Be my friend. fuck me. make me laugh. give me time and space to learn to trust who you are. Let me be independent when I am away from you. Dont try and be the boss all the time - you only get to be the boss of me in the bedroom lol