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How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke
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Good boundaries. Very good ones.
after working in the sex industry I have NO issue anymore in telling people no. cause punters will hound the living shit out of you for free time if you don't have good boundaries. Everyone wants a freebie. even if it's just talking to you for long enough to jerk off secretly while they make a fake booking.
So I'm very, very good at not responding to texts if I am not up for it. I just ignore it. I pretend its a phone and I'm not home to answer it. It's a message, not a giant loudspeaker demanding my attention.
If I'm busy with me I don't answer texts or phone calls or emails. If they throw a tantrum about it, we aren't going to work.
the people it does work with, if they don't get an answer, they bugger off and go do something else.
I am not seeing or screwing anyone right now, but that is how I have done it. I am an extrovert but I do need my independence and autonomy and my me time. And so I don't guilt myself into accomidating other people in that time. End of.
If I don't do that? I have a mental health melt down.
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