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GraffitiBoi · 01-11-2014, 08:44 PM

It does get better, but I'm sure you are tired of hearing that!

Up until I decided to post this reply no one, except my friends who helped me, knew the true extent of this part of my life:

Six years ago my fiancé left me. Within a few months after that I lost my job, my home and my car. I sold almost everything I owned just so I could eat. I also lost my confidence in myself. Today I have a job, a home, a car and am still working on replacing the things I sold. Some I can never replace as they were antiques. Things can be replaced over time and a new life can be built. I'm still working on having confidence in myself again, but I'll get there.

I won't lie and say everything is perfect now. There are days I still struggle with the feelings I had when I lost everything I had. Every once in awhile out of the blue I get that suffocating feeling that I could lose everything again. It doesn't happen often, but it is 1000 times better than it used to be. I can only hold on to the knowledge and belief that one day these feelings will be almost non-existent.

What helped me through those rough times, and even my bad days now, were my friends. They helped me see the positive and keep me on track to rebuilding my life. Even my ex fiancé and her mom helped me out with pep talks, a place to live, food when I had none, a car to borrow for job interviews, and even some spending money so I could go out with my friends. To this day I feel I owe them more than I could ever repay, even though they say I owe them nothing.

Hang in there and allow yourself time to grieve and allow your friends to support you in anyway they might offer.

01-11-2014, 08:44 PM	#7
GraffitiBoi Member How Do You Identify?: Transmasculine Preferred Pronoun?: Male ones Relationship Status: Playing around and having fun Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Minnetonka, MN Posts: 903 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 990 Thanked 3,663 Times in 824 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	It does get better, but I'm sure you are tired of hearing that! Up until I decided to post this reply no one, except my friends who helped me, knew the true extent of this part of my life: Six years ago my fiancé left me. Within a few months after that I lost my job, my home and my car. I sold almost everything I owned just so I could eat. I also lost my confidence in myself. Today I have a job, a home, a car and am still working on replacing the things I sold. Some I can never replace as they were antiques. Things can be replaced over time and a new life can be built. I'm still working on having confidence in myself again, but I'll get there. I won't lie and say everything is perfect now. There are days I still struggle with the feelings I had when I lost everything I had. Every once in awhile out of the blue I get that suffocating feeling that I could lose everything again. It doesn't happen often, but it is 1000 times better than it used to be. I can only hold on to the knowledge and belief that one day these feelings will be almost non-existent. What helped me through those rough times, and even my bad days now, were my friends. They helped me see the positive and keep me on track to rebuilding my life. Even my ex fiancé and her mom helped me out with pep talks, a place to live, food when I had none, a car to borrow for job interviews, and even some spending money so I could go out with my friends. To this day I feel I owe them more than I could ever repay, even though they say I owe them nothing. Hang in there and allow yourself time to grieve and allow your friends to support you in anyway they might offer.