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imperfect_cupcake · 02-02-2014, 08:27 PM

I'm shy in some things. I won't make the first move when I'm out with someone. I just can't. I haven't had to for the past decade so getting back into the Vancouver thing where butches don't make first moves (? Or something?) I have sat parked in a car outside my house for up to an hour talking, feeling really confused because aren't they supposed to at the very fucking least try to kiss me here? Isn't that the whole point of sitting in a parked car outside my house? And waiting.... And waiting.... And nothing.... Dum de dum.... Ok this is agonizing for me now, I don't understand why we are sitting here, I'm going to go. And I leave feeling horribly disappointed. Then confused as to why they are calling and asking me out again if they don't want to kiss/shag me. It's obviously not for hanging out, they are asking me on date things. But they don't try to kiss me and they don't ask to stay over or put their hand on my leg or....???

So if that happens twice, I turn down the third date. It seems that it's a pointless exercise in awkward and growing confusion. I've had one take me on six dates and nothing happened. Why? Why would I keep going? I have no idea what that person wanted from me. I don't understand. I finally stopped going and finally stopped responding to messages.

So, I can't make first moves. At all. I can ask someone to go hang out for a beer. But I can't make the first physical moves. Apparently this is a hideous handicap now. Wasn't before, now is.

02-02-2014, 08:27 PM	#1824
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I'm shy in some things. I won't make the first move when I'm out with someone. I just can't. I haven't had to for the past decade so getting back into the Vancouver thing where butches don't make first moves (? Or something?) I have sat parked in a car outside my house for up to an hour talking, feeling really confused because aren't they supposed to at the very fucking least try to kiss me here? Isn't that the whole point of sitting in a parked car outside my house? And waiting.... And waiting.... And nothing.... Dum de dum.... Ok this is agonizing for me now, I don't understand why we are sitting here, I'm going to go. And I leave feeling horribly disappointed. Then confused as to why they are calling and asking me out again if they don't want to kiss/shag me. It's obviously not for hanging out, they are asking me on date things. But they don't try to kiss me and they don't ask to stay over or put their hand on my leg or....??? So if that happens twice, I turn down the third date. It seems that it's a pointless exercise in awkward and growing confusion. I've had one take me on six dates and nothing happened. Why? Why would I keep going? I have no idea what that person wanted from me. I don't understand. I finally stopped going and finally stopped responding to messages. So, I can't make first moves. At all. I can ask someone to go hang out for a beer. But I can't make the first physical moves. Apparently this is a hideous handicap now. Wasn't before, now is.