Great thread. There are a number of places in California dealing with LGBT seniors.
http://gleh.org
http://openhouse-sf.org
There is also the Village movement across the country where people get together and create a supportive environment to age in.
http://www.vtvnetwork.org
None of them are exclusively LGBT. I think it is a great model though.
I worry a lot about Greyson being in a facility. Openhouse conducts trainings on LGBT cultural competentcy for hospitals and assisted living facilities. This is a great step in helping ensure we get adequate care with diginity. Our interactions with the hospital during his heart surgery were good, but not perfect. The most important thing is to be vocal! Advocate for yourself or assign an advocate for you. I was like a pit bull in the hospital so much so that Greyson had to tell me to simmer down!
I am hoping to work with seniors in my second career. I will certainly be advocating for LGBT people as a queer femme!