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Parker · 03-21-2014, 01:34 PM

When I changed my name in 2007, I changed both my first and last name. My first bc I never really liked Deborah - it never looked, sounded, or felt right. I ended up picking Parker bc it sounded gender neutral to me and bc it means "keeper of the park," which was perfect bc I love trees, forests, etc.

I also wanted to change my last name bc even as a kid, when I thought about marriage, I knew I would not take a man's last name bc it felt like ownership to me. I realized then that my current last name was a man's name - my dad's - and that using my mom's maiden name would still be using a man's name - her dad's. So I figured I should just make my own last name and start from scratch.

I struggled for a while in trying to find the right name, but then it hit me that I love wolves and have an affinity for them, so why not Wolf? My name is a little tricky though bc Parker is a common last name, so some people read the name and think my name is Wolf Parker and that I am a man. It was an unfortunate side effect, but not everyone sees it that way - a lot of people love saying the 2 names together as if they are one name. All-in-all, even with some people seeing my new name in writing and thinking: dude, I still love the name and am very happy that I changed it.

Good luck!

03-21-2014, 01:34 PM	#5
Parker Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Butch. Lesbian. Dyke. Woman. Female. Preferred Pronoun?: She, of course! Relationship Status: Content Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Small Town Life Posts: 2,880 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,858 Thanked 11,730 Times in 2,432 Posts Rep Power: 0	When I changed my name in 2007, I changed both my first and last name. My first bc I never really liked Deborah - it never looked, sounded, or felt right. I ended up picking Parker bc it sounded gender neutral to me and bc it means "keeper of the park," which was perfect bc I love trees, forests, etc. I also wanted to change my last name bc even as a kid, when I thought about marriage, I knew I would not take a man's last name bc it felt like ownership to me. I realized then that my current last name was a man's name - my dad's - and that using my mom's maiden name would still be using a man's name - her dad's. So I figured I should just make my own last name and start from scratch. I struggled for a while in trying to find the right name, but then it hit me that I love wolves and have an affinity for them, so why not Wolf? My name is a little tricky though bc Parker is a common last name, so some people read the name and think my name is Wolf Parker and that I am a man. It was an unfortunate side effect, but not everyone sees it that way - a lot of people love saying the 2 names together as if they are one name. All-in-all, even with some people seeing my new name in writing and thinking: dude, I still love the name and am very happy that I changed it. Good luck!