[*Anya*]

I think the OP wrote "things to never say on a first date" or perhaps that's my take on it.

My examples were from very first dates, first face-to face meetings.

For me, on that first date: please do not tell me that you are mainly attracted to Latin girls (I had a couple of pictures with my dating profile); please don't tell me that I am attractive because you are not attracted to thin girls (WTF) or an extensive story about your GF of 5 years heroin overdose, when you had no idea (and you lived together) that she was an addict.

One of my most classic first dates was with a psychologist and the PhD told me that he knew I wanted to sleep with him because of how my pelvis was tilted towards him on the chair, facing him. This was before I dated women but the principle is certainly the same.

Don't tell me shit like that.

A first meeting (always for coffee, meeting you there so that I could bring my get-away car) should be to see if there is any kind of emotional connection and sexual attraction.

Keep all of your deep, emotional "truths" until you know if some kind of connection is present. Then, as we trust each other and know that it is safe and the other is receptive; slowly bring them out- not all tumbling out the first time I meet you at Starbucks.

Otherwise, I felt as though I were at work, listening to a client with deep emotional needs, trying to figure out a treatment plan for that person. Not a love connection.

PS: Sometimes, now, when my girl-friend is watching some kind of romance show (she would kill me to know that I wrote that ) I tell her how glad I am, that I never (god willing) have to go out on a first date ever again.