One of the reasons I made a newbie intro thread is so I could post an update, because I couldn't find a good place elsewhere to put it.
So... I'm embarrassed to admit this but until yesterday, the only experience I'd had with women was a few kisses. One of those kisses happened last week when I went to visit someone 2,500 miles away whom I thought was going to be "the one." Well I had to practically beg her for it, which is also embarrassing. And it didn't give me enough info to see if there was chemistry because her side of it was so half-assed.
I've found it incredibly demoralizing to go through this at my age. Nobody wanted to be my "first." They think I'm just curious, or experimenting, or confused. I felt defensive and ashamed about that too, because, well why *is* this happening now? Why did I wait so long? Did I always know and was suppressing it? Was I in complete denial?
But it's none of those things, although I still don't know why it happened the way it did. And although I wish I'd gone through this 20 years ago, for whatever reason, this is my new reality today. It's real. It's my life, not an experiment.
It's like that catch-22 college students used to find themselves in, in the days before internships. You can't get a job without experience, but you can't get experience without a job.
Well anyway, I'd gone on a random okcupid date some time in April, and I really liked her. Last night she came over to watch a classic movie on Netflix and let's just say, we never saw the end of the movie.
It was so amazing. I'd been so afraid of looking like I don't know what I'm doing. I'm not saying there weren't a couple of uncertain, fumbling moments, but for the most part it just flowed and felt so natural. And I was so attracted to her, I just wanted to pounce! Luckily she pounced first.
It felt so good to be with someone who wanted to be with me. Afterward she said she felt honored to be my "first" and she didn't judge me at all or doubt my sincerity about it. She wants to see me again and I want to see her again. I am so proud of myself for being open to this opportunity. It was everything I was hoping it would be and more.
And just because I bet some of you want to know... 3 times.
