[candy_coated_bitch]

I also think the way people act in personal relationships, and that private dynamic, is not necessarily the same as how one treats others in public. The OP seemed the be addressing an incident where their babygirl pointed out to them that they were bossy and rude to someone in the drive-through at a fast food restaurant.

I am a dominant personality type, and am mostly a Domme in the kinky sense in my relationships. And while I can be very bossy--it's in a way that is desired by both people. I can be a little bossy with friends, but not in a mean way. And I just have a "big" personality, for lack of a better word.

Outside of that--I am generally quite nice to folks working in places like fast food restaurants because I know it's a shitty job where they make next to no money and take a lot of crap from people. I will be assertive if I think someone is really unacceptably doing a bad job, but I'm pretty understanding. And I am kind of the most irritable person ever LOL. I guess it just varies.

Personal dynamics and relationships are different than how one treats others outside of that dynamic. It might seem to make sense that Butches who take a more dominant role in relationships would be more bossy towards everyone, but I am pretty sure it's not that simple.

I'm currently in a Daddy/girl relationship, which is REALLY unusual for me. But I am kind of the bossy little spoiled princess and he is the patient accommodating Daddy--so it works. I would be EXTREMELY surprised if he were ever to be bossy or rude towards anyone in public. I would be more likely to even though it's not my usual M.O.

I know this was originally posted in the Butch Zone so I am hoping the conversation doesn't feel hijacked...