Butch Femme Planet - View Single Post - do Butches /Daddys have the green light to be rude and /or bossy in public ?

imperfect_cupcake · 05-18-2014, 01:56 PM

Pardon, I was sort of attempting to say it's personality and culture rather than being butch, in my experience with partners. I know my north american self, even though I'm a canuck and can be overly polite in public in an american point of view, was seen as slightly obnoxious in southern England because I was straightforward in their opinion. which is rude.

I know many people in vancouver find americans treat service people rudely here, simply because of the difference in approach. You have to apologise first, smile, make a joke before you correct someone on making a mistake with an order. If you don't, it is considered rather rude to just straight forwardly point out the error. There is the joke of laughing and saying "well, don't hold back, tell me how you really feel" with a grin, when someone is being too direct without the polite buffering.

05-18-2014, 01:56 PM	#13
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Pardon, I was sort of attempting to say it's personality and culture rather than being butch, in my experience with partners. I know my north american self, even though I'm a canuck and can be overly polite in public in an american point of view, was seen as slightly obnoxious in southern England because I was straightforward in their opinion. which is rude. I know many people in vancouver find americans treat service people rudely here, simply because of the difference in approach. You have to apologise first, smile, make a joke before you correct someone on making a mistake with an order. If you don't, it is considered rather rude to just straight forwardly point out the error. There is the joke of laughing and saying "well, don't hold back, tell me how you really feel" with a grin, when someone is being too direct without the polite buffering.