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Originally Posted by Kobi
Biggest turn off for me is having never-ending lists of turn offs because:
1. It denies the reality of being imperfect human beings.
2. It takes away from the quirkiness and individuality of people expressing their diversity in their own way.
3. It indicates people should fit a check off list of what pleases each of us, rather than just accepting who they are.
4. It adds negativity to the world which seems to need a good healthy dose of positivity.
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This thread was not started with the intent to put anyone down or ask others to come up with a 20-page laundry list of faults other people have that they can't abide.
However, there is something to be said for knowing what you can and can't put up with. Some habits, attitudes, etc. are simply deal-breakers, even if the person can't help it.
Even I have been a bit taken aback by some of what I've read on here because the poster is not only describing traits I have, but traits I can't help or "fix" (and some of them, I wouldn't necessarily want to). Still, it's better to know these things up front before investing any time in a relationship that is destined for failure.
I think it's a good idea to be clear both about what does it for you and what doesn't so you can select a mate that best matches you, rather than suffering in silence with someone who really does have 20-plus unacceptable qualities or habits that you can't stand because you've decided to settle.