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imperfect_cupcake · 07-14-2014, 11:03 AM

I think there is something implicit being stated in "first date" here that isn't really part of how I work, which is why I'm baffled by some of this.

I f this is meet people from online, I tend not to meet up with people without talking for a bit. And usually that involves getting to know you conversations. So by the time I meet them, we've gone past the "fluffy" conversation.

If I'm having a date with someone met through someone else, I've probably hung out with them in a group a few times, at the very least. And had a few conversations on the phone/text/email/Facebook. So again, past the fluffy part.

I'm not a surface conversation girl. I like difficult and meaty subjects, black humour, sarcasm and real life stories. So I get to those fairly quickly. A first date, for me, will not be the first time we've talked. Likely we've talked quite a bit before meeting the first time if online.

So that may be why I don't "get" first date rules.

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