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08-29-2014, 01:55 PM

Would anyone who engages in regular written step work like to be part of an online study buddy duo or group? [achieved through messenger/skype/googlehangout etc.]

Personally, I find working alongside another person helpful in motivation, willingness and concentration. It is after all a 'we' programme eh?

I've been trying to find other fellowship study buddies for ages...and a queer one since I got into recovery two and half years ago.
My old bud Paul Q and I used to work side by side really well, him doing his uni work and me my step work, but then he went and bloody moved from living just around the corner from me...Tsk! [I love the dude dearly, despite his unforgiveable geographical 'betrayal'

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Others pumpkins [from the addict/alcoholic pumpkin patch] have expressed interest but they are never willing to be pinned down and knuckle down to the work.

Currently finishing up the written work [from the NA Step Work Guide...you can do it your way] for Step 5 which I've all but done apart from the almost retrospective write up.

Because I live far, far from the cosmopolitan capital, in a wee provincial seaside town oop north, I don't have any queer fellowship in the local pumpkin patch. It's something I feel the lack of on a weekly basis.

I go to a women's meeting periodically.
It hurts that they insist on calling me a lady despite having asked them not to. Insist that "you are a girl really aren't you". Or question "Why are you at a women's meeting if you're not a man or a woman?" I don't have the will or inclination to keep explaining why I feel so isolated in a local fellowship where I am the only 'queer' person locally. There are 2 non b/f lesbians who are in no way political or challenging in their 'gayness' to the rest of the pumpkin patch. They both present as femme-ish.

So, here I am, reaching out across the big water, for butch/femme pumpkins to work alongside, who 'get it' and get me, who I don't have to explain my gender to.

Whaddaya say?

In loving fellowship

08-29-2014, 01:55 PM	#2373
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Would anyone who engages in regular written step work like to be part of an online study buddy duo or group? [achieved through messenger/skype/googlehangout etc.] Personally, I find working alongside another person helpful in motivation, willingness and concentration. It is after all a 'we' programme eh? I've been trying to find other fellowship study buddies for ages...and a queer one since I got into recovery two and half years ago. My old bud Paul Q and I used to work side by side really well, him doing his uni work and me my step work, but then he went and bloody moved from living just around the corner from me...Tsk! [I love the dude dearly, despite his unforgiveable geographical 'betrayal' ] Others pumpkins [from the addict/alcoholic pumpkin patch] have expressed interest but they are never willing to be pinned down and knuckle down to the work. Currently finishing up the written work [from the NA Step Work Guide...you can do it your way] for Step 5 which I've all but done apart from the almost retrospective write up. Because I live far, far from the cosmopolitan capital, in a wee provincial seaside town oop north, I don't have any queer fellowship in the local pumpkin patch. It's something I feel the lack of on a weekly basis. I go to a women's meeting periodically. It hurts that they insist on calling me a lady despite having asked them not to. Insist that "you are a girl really aren't you". Or question "Why are you at a women's meeting if you're not a man or a woman?" I don't have the will or inclination to keep explaining why I feel so isolated in a local fellowship where I am the only 'queer' person locally. There are 2 non b/f lesbians who are in no way political or challenging in their 'gayness' to the rest of the pumpkin patch. They both present as femme-ish. So, here I am, reaching out across the big water, for butch/femme pumpkins to work alongside, who 'get it' and get me, who I don't have to explain my gender to. Whaddaya say? In loving fellowship